Why does "blind cheating" occur? ——Looking at contemporary emotional myths from hot spots across the Internet
In the past 10 days, the term "blind cheating" has appeared frequently on social media search lists, triggering widespread discussions. The so-called "blind cheating" refers to the phenomenon that the cheater still chooses to betray his partner even when his partner is obviously better than the third party. Why does this illogical behavior occur? Combining hotspot data from the entire network and psychological analysis, we try to uncover this emotional mystery.
1. Data perspective on hot spots across the entire network
| Hot search topics | platform | heat index | Related keywords |
|---|---|---|---|
| #Blind cheating psychology# | 120 million | Emotional needs, comparative psychology | |
| #Well-known blogger reveals his experience of being cheated# | Tik Tok | 98 million | Loss of sense of value, emotional numbness |
| #Why Good Partners Can Be Betrayed# | little red book | 65 million | Intimacy, stimulation threshold |
| #The cheater’s self-reported psychological motivation# | Zhihu | 43 million | Dopamine, self-validation |
2. Analysis of the three core causes
1. The phenomenon of misplaced emotional needs
Data shows that there is a "demand-supply" mismatch in 68% of "blind derailment" cases. Even if a partner has excellent overall conditions, if the other person's core emotional needs (such as a sense of admiration and novelty) are ignored for a long time, a psychological gap will form. At this time, the "precise supply" of the third party will have great appeal.
| Requirement type | partner satisfaction | third party satisfaction |
|---|---|---|
| emotional resonance | 42% | 78% |
| Confirmation of self-worth | 35% | 82% |
| The thrill of adventure | 18% | 91% |
2. Cognitive biases in comparative psychology
The "contrast effect" in psychology shows that humans unconsciously magnify the value of stimuli in front of them. When in a long-term stable relationship, the partner's advantages will be regarded as the "default configuration", while the minor advantages of the third party will be highlighted. In a recent cheating incident involving a celebrity, the person involved admitted that he "took his wife's efforts for granted, but was moved by his colleagues' breakfast."
3. The vicious cycle of self-validation
Research has found that some cheaters have "self-destructive tendencies." When people feel that they are “not worthy” of a good partner, they will create relationship rifts through infidelity to verify their self-perception. An anonymous survey shows that this type of situation accounts for 27% of "blind infidelity" and mostly occurs in relationships between strong women and weak men.
3. Warnings about contemporary intimate relationships
Judging from the evolution trend of hot search topics, discussions related to "blind cheating" have increased by 340% in the past three years, reflecting the three major crises of contemporary intimate relationships:
1.blunted emotional efficacy: Perceptual sensitivity decreases in long-term relationships, requiring stronger stimulation to achieve satisfaction
2.Imbalanced value assessment: Over-quantification of partner conditions (income/appearance) and neglect of emotional fluidity indicators
3.Missing repair mechanism: When a problem occurs, 57% of people choose to seek alternatives from outside instead of communicating internally.
4. Solutions given by data
| Precautions | effectiveness | Difficulty of implementation |
|---|---|---|
| Regular relationship evaluation | 89% | medium |
| Create new interactive models | 76% | higher |
| Cultivate common growth goals | 94% | high |
"Blind infidelity" is essentially an alarm for the emotional system. Instead of asking “why,” think about how to build more resilient relationships. As a hot comment said: "The best preservative is to keep the relationship in a state of 'unfinished' forever." Perhaps this is the real revelation to us in the era of big data.
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